Our Husbands…

StressedWe all know that men and women are totally different. One of the many ways we are different is how we deal with things when we are upset or just need to talk. Men want to fix things but when it comes to us women it can me hard to figure out just how to do that. Sometimes when I unload on my hubby because my emotions are getting the best of me or I just need to talk I will tell him before hand, “I don’t want you to fix this or come up with a solution. I just want you to listen and then hug me and let me know that everything is going to be ok.” He is so happy with doing that. It takes the burden off of him to try and figure out how to “fix” it and he gets to help in the process. What husband doesn’t love that? Our husbands really do want to help but a lot of the times they feel helpless so they do detach. This helps them from doing that.

I was reading in Genesis the other night and came across this text, which I am sure you have all heard or read many times. And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18(NKJV) The Message version puts it this way, “God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”” Genesis 2:18(MSG) The Good News version, “Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable companion to help him.”” Genesis 2:18(GNT)

Any way you read it we are to help our husbands not add more stress to their lives.

Here is an excerpt out of a book that has really helped me over the years, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I highly recommend adding this book to your marriage tool bag. I will be quoting from it often in my writings to you.

“Men really are not as complicated as we think they should be. Men love to hear that their woman is happy and that they are the source of this happiness. Men deserve the same respect you would show a visitor in your him – even more. Men love to be complimented. They also like to be admired. I always thank my husband for working so hard for us, and I encourage the kids to do so, too. Men are grumpy when they are tired and/or hungry. Anything they say while they are in either one of these states is not to be taken seriously. Men don’t like it when women talk about them behind their backs. Men are not your ‘daddies’, they are your contemporaries and get stressed and scared about things just like you do. And if you were a real friend, you would ease their burdens, not add to them. Men have dreams, too, and it doesn’t matter if it’s logical or not, don’t walk all over them.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t have problems – everyone does – but it’s a lot easier to work them out with a man who knows you love and respect him.”

It has been said that a good number of men want respect more than love. A lot of times men feel that they come last, in their feelings and in their needs. Let’s let our husbands know that is not true.


Happy Husband and Wife


What Happens When We Don’t Pray


What happens when we don’t pray. In a nut shell, all hell can breaks loose.

Something happened to me a few weeks ago and it didn’t set well with me. There was no reason for it to bug me, but Satan went right to work on me. What I should have done was get right down on my knees and ask God for help. I did not. Instead I asked a friend to pray for me. Thank God she did or I am not sure how long I would have been feeling out of sorts. Have you ever known you should get on your knees and pray but you find that you just can’t seem to get there? I don’t even necessarily mean literally get on our knees, even shooting up an arrow prayer asking for divine help, seems out of ready. Have you ever felt this way? That is exactly where I was at. I couldn’t even shoot up an arrow prayer. Why I could ask my friend to pray for me is beyond me, but I could and I did. This is one of the many reasons it is good to have friends who pray together. On a scale of 1-10 of things going bad when you don’t or can’t pray this was just a 2. Not bad at all, but it sure does impress upon me to pray, even when I feel I can’t. At least I had the good sense to ask someone to pray on my behalf. Whatever it takes to get that prayer up to God, do it! I would love to hear from you. Let me a note. Let me know if you have ever felt that you were stuck and couldn’t pray and how you got past it.

The Struggle of Spending Time with God

The struggle of spending time with God seems to hit us all, no one seems to be exempt. In some groups I am in and blogs I read it seems to be an epidemic problem. In our busy lives we struggle to find quiet time or even pockets of quiet time to spend with God. This should not be so hard but Satan has gone out of his way to make sure we live in such a busy busy world that it keeps us distracted from God as much as possible.

We go about our daily lives doing the laundry, dishes, making the beds, cooking, dusting, vacuuming, mopping, being a taxi driver and the list goes on and on and on. Where does our quiet time with God fit in? When do we seek God? When do we listen for Him? What if during all our “doing” we try to stay connected to Him? What would that look like for you?

It seems like sometimes, ok most of the time we give God some time here or there, wherever it is most convenient for us. What if God was interwoven in everything we did? I can’t help but wonder if I have God interwoven in everything I do all day long if I would not struggle so much, that the “time” would just happen.

In this book I am reading, Women Living Well by Courtney Joseph, it suggests doing a prayer walk through your house, praying while cleaning room to room. Dust a picture, pray for that person. Making your bed, pray for your husband’s spiritual walk or lack of and your marriage, that it will glorify God. Making your side of the bed don’t forget to pray for yourself. Picking up your kids laundry, pray for each one. In the kitchen wiping down the chairs again pray for each family member.

Write down a Bible verse, read it often throughout the day, think about what it means, pray about the verse and ask God to give you some new insight about it. Another way to keep connected to God is while cooking or ironing (yes, there are some women who still iron) listen to a sermon online or listen to Bible audio. I have James Earl Jones reading the New Testament and I love listening to him read. Interweave God into EVERYTHING you do. How many times have you taken the iPhone or iPad into the bathroom to do your thing to check Facebook status, emails, play a game or read the news? Really? Am I the only one on the planet to do this? I think not! Try replacing the “i” gadgets with the Bible. Nuff said, you get the picture 🙂

When we make God the main focus in everything we do this time problem seems to go away. He is there all the time. As we talk with our husband, children and our family and friends include God in the conversation.

I challenge you to get God involved in absolutely everything you do in your day to day life and see if it makes a difference. Leave me a message and let me know how it goes for you and how you are getting God involved in your day.




Obeying God, Oh What freedom…

Today I found that I have the deepest hearts desire to start obeying God and boy what freedom comes with that.

Today I unplugged! I unplugged from Facebook, TV and from Solitaire app game. I allowed these three things to steal a ton, and I mean a TON of my time. God has been after me for over a year to do this. I admit it, I disobeyed and I found no peace in that. I believed the lies that were spun in my head, lie after lie after lie. “You need to stay connected because…..”, “You need to be there for so and so.”, “You need the uplifting messages you get from so and so.”, “You don’t want to let people down.”, “You will miss everyone.” and on and on and on the lies go. I am sure you are familiar with them plus I bet you could add a few more that I am forgetting. We all hear them and we all believe them.

That is what I call the justification game. How can I justify staying or doing what I am asked not to do. How can I tweak it so that I am sort of doing what I was asked but not 100%. Here is a classic example that just went down in the last few days. I am on a Bible study group from Proverbs31.org and when God said load and clear to leave Facebook this is what went through my head. God surly does not want me to leave the Bible study group.” Lie! God knew I was in that Bible study group and God would not ask me to do this if he didn’t want me to leave for a good reason….right? After that lie went through my head here was the next one. “I know what I can do, I can create another Facebook page and only have that group on it.” Lie! God asked me to deactivate not figure out how to stay in the Bible study group. I actually giggled after I thought that one up.

You know what really gets me is that when we believe these lies we miss out on what God can and will do for us. He has great places to take us and we actually stop him from doing so when we don’t obey. Think about that with me for a second. God wants to take me somewhere really amazing, he wants to teach me something that is going to rock my world and I stopped him for at least a year. A year was wasted because I kept believing the lies. Do you have any idea how sad that is? It is pretty sad! Instead of being where God wanted me I am where I only allowed him to take me, which folks is not far at all.

Now where he wants to take me may be a bumpy ride and sometimes it might not be fun and it might even get a little hot but somewhere in the last 24 hours I found the desire to get bumpy, uncomfortable and hot if need be. Deut 2:3 says, ‘You have been going around this mountain long enough! Head north.” That is where I am going, north and the only way I can do that is to stop believing the lies that float around in my head. 

I am here to tell you that we can stop believing all the lies. There is one question that I am finding to ask myself whenever I find myself in a situation where I am asked to do something from God and I start hearing all the lies. Here is the one question you to can start asking: Am I doing this to please man, myself or God? That one question will give us a ton of insight to all the lies we hear going on in our heads. It is as if that one questions will silences all the lies at once and let me tell ya, that is some amazing peace to be had. It is almost like it is a secret weapon that we can use. Next time you find yourself being asked to do something from God and you start playing the justification game ask yourself that question. You might just be surprised at what happens next.

I don’t have a clue as to where God is taking me right now. All I know is that today is the day I start obeying so that he can take me where ever it is he wants to.  I can’t believe how awesome I feel since I obeyed him.

God bless you all on your journeys.


Living so that….


It is time once again to start a Bible study with Proverbs31. Living to that is going to be an awesome study. We are going to dive into the following themes:

1. Jesus came so that . . .

2. God spoke so that . . .

3. Pray so that . . .

4. Trials come so that . . .

5. Let your light shine so that . . .

We just started the first chapter yesterday and I am loving it.

Every week we will have a memory verse to learn and this weeks is: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not parish, but have ever lasting life. John 3:16 (KJ) How exciting to put scripture in our hearts. In the group I am in the question was asked, “Ladies, I’m curious as to how you memorize scripture?”. Ladies wrote in several different ways but the one I think I liked best was writing it in a dry erase board. Today I am going to pick one up and start doing that to see if it will help me memorize scripture. I will erase it everyday and rewrite it. How about you, how do you memorize scripture?

One of the questions this week is, “Why did Jesu so willingly leave the splendor of heaven to enter the squalor of earth? Our journey begins by answering this very question as we examine God’s plan behind sending Jesus to earth.”  Want to know more come sign up and join us.

Until next time . . .




Thanksgiving 2013

As Thanksgiving day approaches I sit in a hotel and wait for the arrival of my 16 year old niece. She was little when I saw her last and now she is going to be all grown up. I am so excited! I can’t wait to hear about all the things she has been through and learned over the years and what her likes and dislikes are. It will be fun going to the mall with it all decorated for Christmas and doing some shopping together.

This year I am thankful for family, friends, good health and a few on-line Bible studies I have been involved with. We have one new addition to our family that have brought us great joy. Chico, who we adopted from RAWL just like our other kitty Little One. Chico is a Siamese and is absolutely gorgeous. I think his tail is as long as his body…LOL The cats are great together and I am thankful that they have each other.

I would love hear what you are all thankful for this year so drop me a message below.

Happy Thanksgiving!

A Confident Heart

Today a new Bible study of A Confident Heart by Renee Swope starts over at Proverbs31.

I am excited to be involved with this Bible study as doubt is always lurking just around the corner. In this Bible study we will learn how to stop doubting ourself and live in the security of God’s promises.

Memory verse for this week is:

Then you will know that I am the Lord. Those who hope in me will not be disappointed.   Isaiah 49:23b NIV

Hashtag for this week is:


Chapter Assignment:

This week, we will be reading Chapters 1 & 2. If you haven’t received your book yet, you can read Chapter 1 here. Chapter 2 will be provided on Wednesday.) Check the Proverbs 31 Study Blog daily (if you are signed up for this Online Bible Study then it already emailed to you every day.)

The assignments you receive during the week are all suggestions–you can decide what works for you and your schedule. Each day, you will receive an email (or you can visit the Online Bible Study Blog), which contains a message and your suggested assignment for that day. You will also be invited to leave a comment and share any thoughts or insights on the study and what you are learning. We LOVE it when you comment. This is our community in action!

Let’s get started!!!